I’m Over 40

I’m over 40
When I turned 40, I knew that I was headed for a slow death. No more dating younger guys. No more going out with them for sex, that was it for me. I became focally dead to the world. So what do I do know? I am currently overweight, poor, an old man looking for love. Pathetic? No. I don’t think so. It comes with the territory.
I feel that I need to make some better decisions about who I date and who my friends are.  It’s not easy being 40. Heck, it was easy 16, 20, or 30. However, 40 is a whole different world. I’m afraid of how it’s going to when I’m 50. I think that’d be a whole another story in a decade or so. For now, let’s focus on my misadventures of dating at 40.
I think I had a better time dating when I was in my teens, and a more relaxed time in my twenties. I became a little harder on my thirties, and now I’m over forty. Let’s see where this yellow brick road takes me.
As a reader, I hope you share your experiences with me and others that are reading this blog.  Do I want to know what happened to you? What are you going through?  If you’re in your twenties, tell me about those older guys your dating. If your thirty, is dating both older and younger? And if you’re around my age, How young is young, and how old is old?
Take my head. Eat healthily, work hard, save and above all pretend you’re younger than what you are.

2012 Mid Year’s Resolution

June of 2012 I made myself a resolution. As you can see above I even drew it out. I know I will succeed with the plan. I am doing it in steps. However, I am not sure what steps to do first, so I’ll play it by ear.

Above left to right.

  • Meet the man of my dreams. I wish it was Gavin Dunn. I love the way he eats a York Peppermint. (Still looking)
  • A new car.
  • Adapted Consulting.
  • Networking.
  • Exercising.
  • Losing weight.
  • Money in my pocket.
  • Money in the bank.
  • Another professional pic of me.
  • A loving partner.
  • Change my wardrobe.
  • An office.
  • Give up bread and dairy.
  • New set of friends.
  • Lose the girth.
  • Quite Smoking. (I succeeded by November 2012)
  • Family. I don’t mean get pregnant and have a litter. i mean be close to the one I have.
  • Sell my books, and have a hit on my website and blogs from around the world.
  • Savings for my own house.
  • Writer more.
  • Books, and more books on sell.
  • One of my books turned into a movie.

That’s it, nothing more.  I am going to do it. With little of my friends. If I tell them, they’ll be very negative about it. I will hear every excuse under the sun about how I am not going to succeed.  I know that they won’t read this. So I’m not worried. They’re too focused on themselves.  I talk and I literally see their eyes roll up to the sky and give a blank look, thinking of something about themselves.  Then they’ll stop me, liven up, be very active and talk about themselves.

Welcome to 40GD

Welcome to 40GD (40, Gay and Dating) by Andres Fragoso, Jr.
Let me introduce myself. My name is Andres Fragoso, Jr. and I am over 42, gay and trying to find that long lasting love in my life.  This blog will tell you about my adventures and miss adventures trying to find love at this age. I am a writer by passion, a poem by design, a family member by love and a man by nature. I have my faults. However, I do have my virtues. I hope that you can see that they are not always balanced, but they are sometimes more balanced under the naked eye.
I live in Las Vegas, been here since I was 17. Before that I was in Oregon for a year. Spent most of my childhood in Culver City, Venice, Santa Monica, Visalia, Lemon Cove and a few other unremembered cities in California. I spent a few years as an adult in Los Angeles, CA, did my stint in the Army in Ft. Lewis and lived in Mexico too.  I have a bit of experience living in different cities and countries and love gets more difficult as I get older.
Being over 40 is a blessing and a cruse. It defies the laws of aging and love.  It’s also an age where anything is possible and everything is impossible. Where new experiences are welcomed. Old habits are forgiven. Memories are forever gone. Love is a gift, don’t let give it away needlessly, you will never get it back.
Without further ado I present you with my 40GD blog. Laugh at my experiences. Just don’t laugh at me.  Re-live some of my old memories and maybe give me your opinion on something that made you remember something in life.
I don’t know about you. But I don’t remember turning thirty. Of course that was soooo long ago. Thirty was a great age for me. I started dating younger men. I mean 20 to 26. I don’t know why. I dated older men all the time and then all of a sudden. Bang. 20 year old’s looking for a mature man.
Then I turned forty. Things definitely changed. I threw a big party. Black and White. I had a live singer, he was quite good. Food was great, I had to have it catered, I didn’t want my mom in the kitchen, her birthday was a few days later.
The company was the best part of it all. Friends of my brother’s and sister came. I saw most of them grow up. Family form LA came over to wish me a happy birthday. Friends from my writing class came as well.
Now that was fun, they made the Mystery Game come to life. Thank you all again.

Now if only I could get one of the guys in the picture.

My Cowboy

A cowboy walks before me. Is that Jake? He looks like Jake. What kind of car is he driving? The same walk. Why do cowboys wear skin-tight jeans? His cowboy shirt lose not tight and stretched on his toned frame. He used to favor dark colors, now wearing a light blue shirt. His short, blond hair? Should it be gray by now? It seems like the last twenty years have not changed him. What kind of woman would put up with him? Does he beat her up, or does he respect her because she is a woman?

I am not as thin as I used to be, I have gray hair and my belly sticks out. I have matured and grown old. I did not commit to anyone. How many relationships have I sabotaged when things were getting serious?

 

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The Regret

The Regret

Aroon sat up from the love nest of soft leaves. “Dugan, do you feel any regret over the changes we made?” He covered his shoulders with his hands, feeling a cold shiver shoot across his naked back.

“I do feel regret.” Dugan closed the distance to warm Aroon with his own body. “We should have known better than to make these changes.”

“Is it because we are men and are limited to what we can do?”

“No, it’s not that. Even as a man, I still love you.”

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The Regret

Aroon sat up from the love nest of soft leaves. “Dugan, do you feel any regret over the changes we made?” He covered his shoulders with his hands, feeling a cold shiver shoot across his naked back.

“I do feel regret.” Dugan closed the distance to warm Aroon with his own body. “We should have known better than to make these changes.”

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